I think we need to take into account that our perspective on this, as circumsexuals, is extreme. Our absolute focus of sexuality, on a checklist from 1 to 10, is the circumcised penis in first position, then nothing for a while, and then, who knows, big boobs at number ten.
And therefore, our perception of what a woman should be saying is distorted. A normal woman will be noticing so many things about us at the same time, all of which are sexually arousing to her, that the one thing we care about the most is simply not taking up as much space on her mind. She's probably also taking in our aftershave, how the beard stubbles feel on her breasts, the location, the dinner earlier that evening, the clock on the mantelpiece, you name it.
But we are constantly waiting for "the word." Given how many things she may be alluding to though, that's like playing the lottery. It may never come. The competition is too big. With our high and tight circ focus, we are up against far more common things she may actually have knowledge of. That's probably the curse of our fetish - there needs to be knowledge. That's not likely going to be there in women with little experience, and even with the experienced ones, the issue is that an erect penis will look so much the same circumcised and uncircumcised that it may simply not register due to lighting conditions and other priorities.
I have found that woman-initiated circ talk will usually happen when there is a situation in which she notices the penis in its flaccid state. They will always be fascinated by what it looks like flaccid, because of the size difference, I have noticed. They're all like "wow, I can't believe how much bigger it gets!" And when they see it small, that's when the visual difference between circumcised and uncircumcised really plays out, and it's also the time to play the aesthetics card, because that is clearly when we maintain full glans bling, while the competition is down and out in burrito territory with their unrefined shlongs.
And as for being "honest" then, female side, I've been getting a lot of good feedback. Usually things like "you have a very nice thing."
Honesty can of course also mean criticism. But what's to criticise on someone's body? I only had one encounter where the lady was a nurse and said it was a pity they had to use sutures, because it leaves suture marks. That was as close to negative as I ever got, and it was, of course, honest.